2008 Woodie Awards
Shyness Can Hinder Personal Happiness
Last Chances with The Girl of Your Dreams, Or at Your Best Friend's Heart
G.M. Grosso
Issue date: 12/9/04 Section: Feature
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Dear G.M.,
There's a girl in my class that I've been really interested in all semester, and I've never had the guts to say anything. Now that the end of the semester is here, I'm running out of time. How do you think I should go about this situation?
~L.L.~
Well, if you're going to act, you better do so now. The clock is ticking, and while you may have the opportunity to run into this girl on campus next semester, the chances of striking up a conversation with her aren't great. However, you can't be blamed for not initiating anything before now.
If you asked her out to dinner or just to hang out, and she rejected you, it could have made for a very uncomfortable semester. Even if the first few dates went well, there was always the potential that something could have gone wrong, and who wants to be forced to sit in a classroom with someone for the next 16 weeks? But now there are no more excuses!
At this point, you've got nothing to lose. If she rejects you, then you probably won't ever have to see her again, and as devastating as rejection can be, it's only painful and embarrassing for a little while. Then you pick up the pieces and get back out there. However, that's the worst-case scenario.
My suggestion is that you approach her during your final class. You don't want to wait until the final exam because you probably don't want to stress yourself out gauging how long it will take for one or both of you to finish. You should be focusing on your final, not this girl.
Strategically time it so that both of you are leaving the class at the same time on the last day. Find a way to initiate conversation, whether it be about your final or some aspect of the class. Anything you can think of, use. This is your last opportunity. After you strike up conversation, ask her if she wants to join you for coffee or lunch or even if she wants to study for the final with you.
At this point, she'll have to either say that sounds great or that she's really not interested. Exchange numbers accordingly. I imagine you know the shtick after this.
There's a girl in my class that I've been really interested in all semester, and I've never had the guts to say anything. Now that the end of the semester is here, I'm running out of time. How do you think I should go about this situation?
~L.L.~
Well, if you're going to act, you better do so now. The clock is ticking, and while you may have the opportunity to run into this girl on campus next semester, the chances of striking up a conversation with her aren't great. However, you can't be blamed for not initiating anything before now.
If you asked her out to dinner or just to hang out, and she rejected you, it could have made for a very uncomfortable semester. Even if the first few dates went well, there was always the potential that something could have gone wrong, and who wants to be forced to sit in a classroom with someone for the next 16 weeks? But now there are no more excuses!
At this point, you've got nothing to lose. If she rejects you, then you probably won't ever have to see her again, and as devastating as rejection can be, it's only painful and embarrassing for a little while. Then you pick up the pieces and get back out there. However, that's the worst-case scenario.
My suggestion is that you approach her during your final class. You don't want to wait until the final exam because you probably don't want to stress yourself out gauging how long it will take for one or both of you to finish. You should be focusing on your final, not this girl.
Strategically time it so that both of you are leaving the class at the same time on the last day. Find a way to initiate conversation, whether it be about your final or some aspect of the class. Anything you can think of, use. This is your last opportunity. After you strike up conversation, ask her if she wants to join you for coffee or lunch or even if she wants to study for the final with you.
At this point, she'll have to either say that sounds great or that she's really not interested. Exchange numbers accordingly. I imagine you know the shtick after this.